One night, me and Malicca were watching TV in the living room. Suddenly Titan got up from the couch and accidentally broke my beautiful flower vase (oh, do i really need to highlight the word 'beautiful' here? hehehe).
Anyways,and so the story goes... (sorry, I got distract easily)
Then Titan looked at me stunned and I just smiled. "No, I won't be mad at you. Go help me get a broom and let's clean it up." I said while I was picking up the crystal pieces. Titan went away and back with a broom. But then he continued watching the movie, and I asked him "Hey, why don't you help me?
"Kan udah tadi ambilin sapu." He said, and I continued cleaning up without making a fuss. But suddenly, something crossed my mind and I asked him again.
"Malicca, have you said sorry for breaking the vase?" I looked at his eyes deeply.
He stopped watching the movie and looked down. He shook his head.
"Why?" I asked him again. He got silent.
"Are you ashame, Malicca?" I continued.
I guess Titan knows it when I call him 'Malicca', it means something serious is happening. It is a nick of authority with a certain, typical, deep and flat tone of voice of his mother. Come to think of it, maybe that was why he answered me anyway.
"Iya bunda."
"Why? You should not be ashamed saying 'Sorry'. Just like you say 'I love you' and 'Thank You'. I love you, I love you, I love you, see ... I am not ashamed saying it."
Then Titan started to shed a tear, and suddenly words were bursting out of his mouth.
"Tapi Bunda enggak bilang maaf waktu kemarin mecahin gelas."
Then I was thinking, ... wow this is getting serious. Then I switched english to bahasa.
"Kan gelasnya punya Bunda sendiri, jadi waktu bunda pecahin sendiri ya resikonya Bunda sendiri. Tapi kan ini Titan pecahin vas bunganya bunda, jadi Titan sebaiknya minta maaf. Bunda, maaf ya Titan enggak sengaja. Gitu."
"Tapi, ... Bunda juga nggak bilang maaf waktu kemarin numpahin keranjang spidol Titan dan berantakin semuanya." He said while ... crying.
Then I was like ... shocked. Oh Wury, don't you ever underestimate a child's memory and how they learn to connect things. Then I knelt down, and I hugged him.
"Maaf ya, Bunda sudah tumpahin spidolnya Titan sampai berantakan kemana-mana. Lain kali, kalau bunda lupa minta maaf Titan ingetin Bunda ya? Okay? Deal?"
Titan nodded. Then he said "Maaf juga Bunda, Titan enggak sengaja."
***
Why teaching Titan to ask forgiveness is such a home work, maybe because I just said it, not really teach him how. Yes, once again, thank you for teaching me; my son.
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